I'm not a big facebook user, can't get on with it myself, so if someone wants to add you as a friend and you hit the 'ignore' button, do they get some sort of message or notification that you've done that?
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Quick question - Facebook, if you don't add someone as a friend do they know?
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Posted 1 year ago #
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no they don't. ignore away
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It's just a shame there isn't an "ignore and tell them to F off" button.
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A "F*** Off" button could be fun though.
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The most discreet option is to accept them then remove them. That way they get the confirmation message then nothing else.
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a F*** Off button, yes please! ... I sometimes get requests from people I've never heard of, like I said I don't use it much and have an unusual name so I wonder how they find me?Anyway 'accept them then remove them. That way they get the confirmation message then nothing else' ... this sounds good to me, thanks.
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Similar quandary myself! A neighbour's 8 year old (FFS) daughter has added me as a friend. I have visions of me popping up on the CEOPS system if I accept the request. But I don't want to upset the neighbour by ignoring the request either. What do I do?
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Ignor.
Ive got muppets at work who have "friended" me, then they moan that I dont confirm. I sit opposite them all day FFS, why do they think I would want to chat to them online ?
I got one person ring me up to moan I hadnt responded to them and they were quite upset/concerned that I hadnt looked at Facebook for months. So I did look and saw they had over 300 "Friends", they got even more upset when I asked them to name them all.
I checked it out a year or two ago to see what the fuss was, saw it wasnt for me and have not bothered looking for months and months. I suppose I should go and delete my account, but once in a blue moon my wife informs me of something I need to know about so I have to go and check out some picture or link or something.
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Darcy, an eight year old shouldn't have a face book account. (their rules not my opinion btw! A quick google suggests min age of 13) Do her parents know this?
Posted 1 year ago # -
It's just a shame there isn't an "ignore and tell them to F off" button.
+1
girls who add you then get upset because you don't recognise them (last time you saw them was 1982 at school) and they now have a married surname annoy me too
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Yeah, I checked it out a couple of years ago too after people I met travelling wanted to keep in touch but I hardly use it, don't see the point myself, I'd rather email to contact someone, I looked at it today and there's someone going on about a large steak they had last night and someone else is going off to be hypnotised ... jeez, no wonder I don't bother with it!
Isn't Twatter a bit like this where people just tell you what colour socks they put on today??
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Know absolutely nil about facebook and the like, but if you don't want them as a friend do you care anyway?
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I have a different approach to this - I quite like FB really as a central hub for stuff. If someone want so be my FB friend and they're someone I vaguely know or don't like then I ignore but if I'm not so anti them I'll accept and send them a message - some don't reply so I cancel them. Why would people want to be FB friends and not want to communicate? So yeah it can be a bit odd but then it can be useful and interesting.
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if you don't want them as a friend do you care anyway
Trouble is if it is someone you know, some people can be a bit funny, but at the moment I'm quite happy to ignore them.
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My facebook account sits dormant, being checked maybe 4 times a year. Mrs North, OTOH, is a regular user and keeps in touch with people all over the world.
It's simply a means of centralising communicaiton, and has an existence of its own (hence why people may be friends on there, even if they are not active friends in "real" life).
Too many people are inane in the lives, however they communicate that inanity (by droning on about what they had for dinner last night while you're sitting next to them trying to work). FB and Twitter (and inumerable blogs) are just the same. As always, apply your distcretion and seek out only interesting people with interesting things to say.
Twitter is advantageous like this - the potential anonymity and level playing field nature of the format means that you are not tied to having to follow people who you know. Indeed, it can be an advantage to follow people you don't know: find some interesting people with interesting things to say/link to/photograph and follow them.
This is where FB is disadvantaged - it's caught half way between being friends with people you know or have known, and the ability to uodate your readers on what you're doing.
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A "F*** Off" button could be fun though.
you can send them a message with that content...
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Well, the most obvious thing I'm not sure anyone has posted is that you'll not appear in their list of friends, so it'll kinda be obviously however you do it....
Posted 1 year ago # -
simonfbarnes - Member
A "F*** Off" button could be fun though.
you can send them a message with that content...
if you were my FB friend i would do this for you, no probs
Posted 1 year ago # -
i have a stupid cow of a sister in law who has just made such a request. my friends are limited to people i like. i'll be ignoring it. that'll teach her.
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if you were my FB friend i would do this for you, no probs
if I recall correctly you were before you decided to shun FB, or me at least
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Haven't we had "Please add me as a facebook friend" threads on here?
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I once made the mistake of using my real name on facebook, and all the A-holes from school and the area i grew up in tried to add me...
Get the message, I lost touch because i couldn't fookin stand you back then, and now i've got even less in common you 'tards!
Great resource for me, especially using a false name.
Only people i know and care about, or ride with can actually find me, no work colleagues or exes need stumble upon and see photos of the drug and alcohol fuelled debauchery we get up at weekends...87 friends on there, 75 or so are people i socially interact with on a very regular basis in the real world, 4 or so are mates who now live too far away so its a good way to stay in touch, the rest being bikey acquaintances.
As for adding people or their kids... if i wouldn't be comfortable with them knowing what i / we really get up to, they dont get in. if i didnt like them, they dont get in. I don't feel guilty about it, if they are offended by the omission, it's their problem, not mine.
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I use the pub test. If I've been for a drink in a pub with someone, and would happily go into a pub with them in the future then yes, otherwise I ignore them.
Similarly I'd only post things on facebook that I'd be happy telling people about if I was down the pub with them. Currently mostly it is baby stuff (which other people are actually interested in) and swimming stuff (which a few swimmingy friends are interested in, but is mainly just me keeping a record for myself of places I've swum).
Joe
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I use the pub test. If I've been for a drink in a pub with someone
I use the reverse pub test, and don't add anyone who might try to make me go in a pub
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I mostly use it for my band stuff. I need to "friend" promoters, venues & other bands so I can get gigs, although mostly that's done away from FB - for now at least.
My MTB buddies are "friends"; I even have some old friends on FB from when I was at uni 20+ years ago; family too
But I draw the line at work colleagues, past or present.
Posted 1 year ago # -
A new bloke in the office wanted to be my 'friend', I said no and the other saps said yes and thought I was rude. The next day was his last, so now some bloke they don't know is leering at their lives through a haze of cocaine, bought with the proceeds gained from stealing their identities and selling their friends lists to Romanians and so on..... etc
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On facebook you can create 'lists' which limit what people can see of your profile/pictures/status updates etc.
Create one where they can't see anything, accept the request and add them to it...they're happy as you're their friend (and they can message you) but they can't go snooping into any of your profile information or read that status update from 4am when you'd had far too much to drink!
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