So like a few of you on here, I have a young family and a full time job so have to be mindful of my hobbies and how much time I am out so I don’t neglect my wife and kids.
In my circle of friends, most of us are in a similar position and we had a strange conversation at the football on Saturday about one of the lads whos wife wouldn't let him come out. Opinions on the subject seemed to range from “I work hard all week so I will do as I please on the weekends/evenings” to “I ask my wifes permission but I had better make the dinner etc first so she is in a good mood”
I was surprised at this and I was surprised at just how much control people let their partners have on their lives where they have to ask for permission to do something like a night ride or visit to the pub. Keeping in mind a night ride will set off after the kids are in bed so the impact on family life is minimal.
I think the wife and I have a fair balance where I will check if she is out on XX night and ask if she minds if I go to football/pub/ride etc. My wife will do the same and it means we each get some time to do as we please but we also get some time as a couple or family depending on the time of day.
So what works for you? Are you quite controlling of your other half or the other way around?