I was out with a single female friend last night and we were discussing POF as we are both on it. I got a "Would like to meet" request from a woman who claimed to be 41 (not sure if that was years or stone) so I showed my friend. She showed me just how many of those an attractive woman gets via POF on a daily basis. I was shocked at just how many blokes there are in the pond. Made me feel a little better about my lack of success.
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She showed me just how many of those an attractive woman gets via POF on a daily basis. I was shocked at just how many blokes there are in the pond.
I was on Fitness Singles about 4 years ago - met a girl on there and after a month or so we both deleted our profiles. While doing that though, she showed me some of the emails she'd got - cringeworthy.
Most were little more than "Phworr, you look like you'd be a good shag", one was from a bloke quite openly saying that she looked like she'd make an ideal "bit on the side" while he was working away from home.
She had a list of about 250 profiles that she'd blocked from contacting her. So yes, a lot of people in the pond but standards weren't high. One of the reasons she gave for meeting up wth me was that I'd sent a funny / original email.
Umm, sorry.. I forgot about this thread..
As I posted up on here before I got messaged on the 1st Jan by a lovely lady. We hit it off fairly quickly by message and by telephone conversation (unusual for me) and met about a week later. Apart from her being "utterly overwhelmed" (her words) for the first half an hour it all went really well. The following week she invited me to stay at her place, she stayed at mine the week after blah blah, and we are now at the point where we have agreed to see each other exclusively and come off the dating site. She wants me to meet her parents and friends and wants to meet mine which I'm ok with so all good so far.
We have agreed to just see where it goes but it looks promising.
In terms of my other online dating adventures I was on Match.com for a while.. I was seeing a beautiful Russian doctor who was a fair bit younger than me (I'm 41 she was 29) and the differences in our maturity was very obvious. We did like each other and there was lots of attraction but the we wanted different things.. i.e. She wanted to get married and I was bloody not!
I also spent a few months seeing a Lithuanian lady.. again younger than me at 30 and also a Dr but this time in Clinical Psychology. She was bonkers pretty but also sadly bonkers.. On our first date she wanted to know when I would know if I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her and it went on from there. Lots of pressure and stress as she wanted marriage and kids very quickly and I ended up feeling like a cross between a cash cow and a sperm bank.. Ended that.
I should probably mention that I separated from my ex-wife in Oct 2012 and haven't even finalised my own divorce yet so all this marriage talk was turning me right off.
The lady I am seeing at the moment is very chilled.. no pressure, no stress, very pretty and lots of substance as well as form... more fingers crossed.
Jeez Jungli sounds like you dodged a double barrel there!
I was thinking this thread was going a bit quiet, in a true to life relfection of my own feelings...I feel quite jaded by the whole experience and have stopped bothering.
That said I have a second date with the chatty hillwalker type on Sunday and she's agreed to go cycling, maybe things are moving in the right direction.
I've got an update!
Saw some pics of a local(ish) woman, looked ok (er, rephrase that: Very attractive compared to 99% of PoFers!), funny profile, no cliches.. So I messaged (not something I'm in a habit of doing!) Few chat messages, seemed ok but not overly keen... "I've been chatting to another man and we're arranging to meet". Huh. Someone got in there first. Ok see ya, good luck.
I'd quite like to go out with that Hannah girl off of that "make unfit people nearly die" TV program! Her brother is on STW, does that count as "online dating"???
Ha! First experience of meeting somebody from POF the other night...
Couple of years older than me (no biggie, my wife was 6 years my senior...), relatively attractive, likes hills & walking, running. I'm new to the area so asked her if she'd mind suggesting a nice pub to go to dinner for, which she did. Then proceeded to be 45 minutes late as she didn't actually know how to get there, good start... And that was it...
Although, in a way it did me some good - realised I'm trying to get back on the horse a bit too quickly after separation. Time to go crazy, have some me time again for a while, buy the motorbike and do all the other things I/we wanted to do but family life, work, etc, got in the way of before we separated.
But some of the flipping descriptions on POF (and others!) - "average body shape", jeez, some of the women who've selected "would like to meet" and have described themselves as that, then looking at the photo... Although, my job and profile pic are probably quite likely to attract some weirdos, maybe I should go try uniformdating...
I'm new to this internet dating thing, by the way...
I have no idea what the "average" body shape is like but if you go by the women who describe themselves as average on dating websites I would have to say it actually means podgy.
Yeah, well that was kind of what I was expecting but I've seen everything from somebody who'd be about a size 12 right up to 18-20. Although, isn't the UK "average" dress size now something like a 16 anyway, what with our pending obesocalypse...?
I like women who look like they have skipped a couple of meals, not who look like they are on first name terms with the staff at Greggs.
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"No madam, I think you'll find you're fattest...", badum-tish...
I've dipped my toe back into dating.
I have met a woman who is 6 years older than me, I'm 31, she is 37. She is great though, very easy going, easy on the eye etc. The age gap is bothering me somewhat, but should it?
Does anyone have any experiences of dating an older woman?
The age gap is bothering me somewhat, but should it?
Don't know. It's up to you.
My mrs is 10 years older than me.
My niece's boyfriend is 12 years younger than her.
In my opinion it would be find till roughly three years time when there's a massive TICK TOCK of a biological clock in the corner of the room!
This is not based on experience...much!
The age gap is bothering me somewhat, but should it?
Entirely dependant on the cicrumstances, your attitude and hers. My wife's 6 years older than me, she's now mid forties, while I'm still late thirties. The age gap's never bothered either of us - she doesn't act like your typical mid forties woman now and has always had the mindset/attitude of someone more my age so it's never been an issue for either us, she's happy acting younger, she looks younger than she is and is very happy that that's how people see her.
Just got dumped on Valentines night. Nice.
The reason ? She told me, after 2 dates, that she wanted kids. Now.
Gutted, as I thought it was going really well. On the other hand...
3 beers in, and I may move on the single malt in a bit.
**** Valentines day.
Weird...this thread is on m front page yet is 3 weeks stale?
I think the mods deleted a post. I saw it this morning at the top of my favourites with a user name and SPAM as last poster.
Well, it was either spam or something else in need of immediate deletion!
Well, just to say, I have no updates! Well, except..
There's a woman at work I found out is single, so I "friended" her on Facebook. She friended me back but that was as far as it went. She's got 100s of "Friends" so I think she just accepts everyone. That's it...
SMUG UPDATE ALERT...
Met Hillwalker woman in January on PoF or "Plenty of Pish" as she calls it, all going well for now and she wants me to take her bike shopping FTW!
Only snag is she is a real talker which can be a problem cause so am I!
I told her I only joined PoF because of the chat on here about seamonsters etc, thankfully she saw the funny side of it.
DezB, have you tried poking her??
I'm too shy
Well, how is everyone getting on?
I have a date tonight. She is 37, and to be honest the age thing is hanging over me a little. I know it shouldn't make a difference. I'm 31, she is 37. Technically there is 5 1/2 years between us, she has just turned 37 and I'm 32 in October. The onlt thing that could be a problem is if she wanted to a family...
Exactly This is our 3rd date, and to be honest I wouldn't have though she was 37, closer to me than that.
Well a couple of months down the line from disastrous first attempt at dating (see above...) I've now had some potential success via the "Locals" function on PoF. Was up in the Lakes taking advantage of my folks' place to get some biking/running done and some solitary relaxation, with them being away for a week on a walking hol. On the Fri night got random message from lass in Kendal who'd seen me listed as being local, looked at my profile and seen it said I actually live down south (at the moment) but decided to message me anyway.
Totally unexpected and unplanned as I'd been planning a weekend on my own away from everything but decided to chance it and we met up on the Sat afternoon anyway, went a walk (her choice of first date) then for dinner. Very successful, lots in common, conversation flowed naturally and we talked pretty much the whole 5 hours. Despite currently being down south she said she'd like to see me again and so now planning next date...
See my post above about age differences - if the person's right for you, it's not important...
Bless you st colin, hope it's helping you. (I seem to recall recent misery threads?).
How I wish I could get a 37 year old
Been having some great chats over the past couple of days myself actually. (Without trying too hard, obviously!) She's gone away for the weekend (or so she told me), but I feel like I've got loads to chat about with this one, so maybe it'll go further...
Thanks again. Oddly my posts refer to two different people.
It's an odd feeling, I feel that maybe I'm forcing this. The first two dates have been nice, dinner and drinks, but I still feel very distant if that makes sense. I get I just want to be able to be close to someone again so maybe that's just normal.
I'm certainly finding it a bit strange too, but think that it's largely down to finding myself back in the uncertainty & insecurity of the dating scene / being single/alone again plus having been with the same woman for 10 years, still married but separated, making it feel almost like I'm cheating on her.
It's just a mental block to be got through, if the time's right you'll know it, conversely, if it's not you'll also know it. And a lot of that'll be down to meeting somebody that you click with...
I found that sitting down and thinking things through helped me - if you feel like you're forcing things then that may be a sign that the time's not right yet. That's what happened to me with the first attempt anyway, 2 months down the line I've met somebody with whom I have clicked and now the time does feel right.
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One of the reasons she gave for meeting up wth me was that I'd sent a funny / original email.
Seems to be the most common request you see on the profiles.
Incidently I've meet 2 lassies from pof, one a few months ago, went ok, organised a second meeting, but I forgot it was my brother birthday so binned it and went out on the lash(I let her know), didn't really think there was any point in trying again.
Second on was a few weeks ago, really nice lassie, but I obviously played it too cool, sent a text few days after got a reply saying I got it that I wasn't your type blah blah. I was like what? because I didn't try and jump you at first attempt ffs(I never texted that)? she was nice very nice actually, but I'm putting that one down to a bullet dodged, well either that or it was code from I'm not her type! ah well have a good life, next!
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