Thoughts are with you. There is nothing I can say that would be anything other than crass and cliched, but I wish you strength.
One-armed cyclist - sad news
That's a real shame that. Sounds like he was a very inspiring bloke.
Our thoughts are with you and your family.
Very sad to hear this news, thoughts are with you.
No idea what to say, except thoughts are with you too.
Gutted. So so sad. Deepest condolences to you and all those close.
I never thought earlier and it is probably FAR too short notice now, but if any of you would like to come and say so long to him, or just have a drink with us afterwards, the funeral is at Wisewood Woodland Cemetery in Sheffield at 2.45pm tomorrow and then at The Plough Inn at Low Bradfield afterwards.
I appreciate a lot of you aren't local, but I know some of you are and you would be more than welcome.
No sombre funeral clothes, just come as you are...
I'll be the blubbering wreck up front, dressed in red.
Sadly, I'm on a plane tomorrow and physically can't be there.
Thoughts will be with you though.
Tomorrow is the day to celebrate the life he lived. Remember that he lived as well we he could. Will take a moment to think about you tomorrow
I am numb at the moment, I feel like part of me died with him and after 20 years together it is going to be very strange being on my own. Although I know there are so many out there sending their love that I am not alone, really...
I haven't had the fortune to meet you or your husband but have recently had a similar experience, losing my SO of 22 years to cancer. I am so sorry this has happened to you, and concur with your remarks.
If I could give you some heartfelt advice: keep those who are dear to you close by; accept that things are not going to be "normal" for a long while; consider professional bereavement counselling (I am finding this quite helpful) as well as accepting all the love from your family and friends; there is no rush to make further big changes in your life and in fact it probably best not to.
Good luck with tomorrow.
Sad news, my condolences
Rest in Peace
Buzz, I'm sorry you found yourself in a similar position and I thank you for taking the time to reply with your thoughts. It means a lot. I will definitely be considering counselling. There is a very good charity here in Sheffield that deals with that kind of thing, so I will be speaking to them next week.
I am sure tomorrow will be a good day really, despite the obvious sadness and I am looking forward to hearing everyones tales of "dumbassery" that I missed out on - I am quite sure there will be a lot of those!!!
It's never good to here of a rider down. I hope I never have to face cancer, it scares the arse out of me thinking about it. The courage required is truly humbling. We are all made of star stuff, but some of us shine brighter than others.
Hope it goes well tomorrow.
yours, TheRealHoops (one of the dim ones)
ps. Bike riders never die, they just get recycled.
Thank you all for your messages. The past two and a bit weeks have been horrible, but I have been busy organising stuff and it's kept me occupied. Who knew there was so much to do.
His funeral on Friday was perfect, it really was. We gathered in a beautiful green valley and the sun shone throughout the service, even though it had rained for days before and it rained for days afterwards. There were a few tears but mostly I saw lots of smiles and there was some laughter.
I just wish J had been there in a more active role to see just how lovely it was, and how many people came to say goodbye. I think he'd've approved.
Two of the funeral blokes said it was the nicest funeral they had ever attended and so many people came up to me afterwards and said the same - that they didn't realise a funeral could be such a 'happy' occasion. I think that's how it should be and a testament to what a nice bloke J was and what a pair of hippies we were. LOL.
Now all the organisation is over I think I am going to struggle with the loneliness. I know there are so many people there for me, that I am not alone, but it is funny how - even in a room full of people - you can suddenly feel so very lonely. I'll get there though...
(Erm, thanks for listening. I think I just needed to get that out)
Really sad news but the funeral sounds like it was exactly what J would have wanted. I hope you can overcome the loneliness as time goes on and I'm guessing all of our thoughts are with you.
I'm not sure if you ride but if you do, get out there and do some miles with a group.
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