a bit of background:
We moved here a year ago and straight away planned an extension on the back of the house, removing a lean to and putting a dining room/kitchen on.
– we told the neighbour in question we were extending, showed her plans before we put them in for permission and accommodated any changes she wanted.
– prior to this i’d asked if she wanted us to do anything with trees in our garden (we weren’t precious about them); i’d dug out her drive when it snowed (and most of the road); i’d not done any work in the house after 9pm; generally considerate neighbourly things.
Anyway, when the house went up she started making noises about it being bigger than she expected, and that it had taken her view. admittedly, her view has changed – but previously she could also see straight into our kitchen. My little lad used to wave at her from the dinner table.
I was in the garden a few weeks back and she called me in to say
“It’s a monstrosity”
“It’s like living in a prison”
“I’ve been having bad thoughts about you”
“I feel duped”
“It will affect our relationship – not my relationship with Isaac (my two year old) – he’s a sweetie”
“you’ve upset me”
“My first thought is to move but you’ve obviously devalued my property now”
and the icing on the cake
“When i phoned up the planning office they said they would have ok’d it even if i’d objected to it as it meets all the rules” – suggesting she’s gone to try and complain an/or undo our building work.
And other such niceties. She’s also been distinctly frosty with all of us and our families.
The latest is today when while me and my wife were putting washing out, she brought her friend into the garden to look at the extension and compare it to our next doors who are going up as well having previously put a 6m flat roof ground floor extension on. One overheard snippet
“Look at theirs, its flat while this sloped. There’s no need”
We’re pretty sure she saw us there so can only assume this was intentional.
Anyway, the long and short is that now my wife is really upset and uncomfortable to go in the garden or bump into her. I’m pissed off that she’s being such a cow when we would have happily made changes when we could and both of us are fearing years of bitchiness and difficult relations.
1) Can she do anything about our extension?
2) Any similar experiences?
sorry for the long post