(Set-up a new account for the purposes of this thread as I'm a regular and known to some user - hope admin don't mind)
I realise that many, if not most, have some issues with their in laws at some point in their lifetime. I guess it's just one of those things. But my in laws have always had a negative impact on me and increasingly they are making my life very unpleasant. We live very close to my in laws so avoiding them is hard and regularly I have to work with her father. I'm not a confrontational sort generally and often this leads people to treat me as a bit of a pushover. The in laws areno different but often have very personal but also very underhand digs at me, generally implying that I haven't done very well in life. The comments are nasty but done in a very passive aggressive manner and they particularly relish the attacks when others are in earshot. They like to remind me how well there other children have done and how successful they are (Infact I remember about 10 years ago my wife's mother in a conversation with my mum mentioned how she believed I was very jealous of her son... To my own mother!!)
On top of this they are horribly bigoted who have only ever lived in villages and have zero world experience at all but still believe they understand all of the worlds ills better than anyone. I have to listen to ill informed, ignorant POV on everything and anything.
When I have periods of time when I have nothing to do with my wife's family I'm fine but as soon as I have to spend any time with them I end up feeling depressed, feeling inadequate and as a result our relationship becomes strained. I never thought that her family could have such a huge impact on me and us but it really is starting to leave its mark. My wife is thankfully understanding about it and I think it's fair to say isn't fond of her parents but despite my feelings I can't pull my wife away from her own family but I'm getting to the point where I need to do something. At the moment I just rant about it (much like this) to my wife, which drives her crazy.
Have any others had similar experiences with their in laws?