The GF and I have a wedding to go to next week.
Longstanding friends of ours that aren't short of a bob (or should that be euro?) or two. He's a lawyer, ffs.
Now they've asked that they don't want any gifts, but money. We've got them something already, I'm not overly fussed about the 30odd €.
The bit that gets me is people asking/expecting money for tying the knot. I find it a bit cheeky, tbh. Rather than feeling they have to ask for money, how about not spending 20k on one of fanfare? I'd be happy to sit in a beer garden for the afternoon and eat Bratwurst. As it is we'll be at one of Munich's most exclusive venues. :-/
I didn't give money away the last time I went to wedding for the same reason. This time it sounds like the money is to be collected in person by the bride and groom (think it is some sort of Romanian thing). I'm sure they'll do ok as half the people there drive BMWs, Mercs etc and are there to impress.
So basically, is it bad form not to give and what is the reasoning behind it?