That’s really well said Jonah. Taking control of your thoughts can then help you handle your emotions.
Also:
– Fill your life with interesting things that keep your mind off of them. This is a perfect time to learn a new hobby – dedicate time to it, knowing a new hobby will make you feel better in the long run.
– Fill your life with interesting people, as above.
Don’t go to them asking for anything, it’s degrading for you and puts them in an uncomfortable position.
Instead, use your new found awesome hobby and confidence from having met new people to live your life better and I guarantee that you will either win them back, or meet someone who’s better.
Also, in my experience, it takes an amount of time equal to half your relationship length to get over them. YMMV, except for the guarantee bit, that’s FACT.
This is what will happen over time anyway. It took me a long while and part of the reason it took so long was because I resistant by not being able to let go.
Ride away from it. Literally. Soon enough you’ll find that you are riding towards things that you want, that you can attain without having to negotiate the past.