I'm kind of the same, I ride with some great guys (including Alex from here) in the FOD, it's where I live, but I'm losing the love of doing the stuff they do, we ride the brilliant stuff of the FOD and surrounding areas, the group are quick and often put people off.
Thing is, I got into road riding last year and now prefer the fitness gains of road riding instead of being in the woods, I enjoy the feel of doing a 50 mile ride instead of a 20 miler. Increased fitness is good and I just enjoy being out and riding.
I live in Ross and cycle alone on the road, I can understand where you come from to a certain extent, the thought of roading it is far more enjoyable than an mtb ride, even living in a fantastic area and even riding with a great bunch.
I can't bring myself to join a club and the only mate I have who road rides is too slow for me to ride with, he pootles whereas I prefer to get on with it a little
Do what makes you happy though and don't label yourself, I get a load of stick for being a lycra wearing roadie perv, but my mates are there if I fancy a ride off road at any point. I've stopped calling myself an MTBer or Roadie, I'm a cyclist.. that kind of helps as did just admitting to myself that I'm not up for doing massive drops and jumps, the world didn't end and I can stuff most of the group up any hill I just stand with the camera whilst they try to kill themselves
Give us an email if you wanna road ride, it's only 30 minutes and Malvern is kind of midway for a ride!