Lived in the Netherlands for 3 years in a small town called Vlaardingen just North of Rotterdam. I worked in Den Haag and we used to visit Leiden a lot as my wife had some work colleagues there. It’s a nice place – compact but still reasonably cosmpopolitan and easy to get pretty much anywhere else in Holland from there within an hour or so.
City / town life in Holland is fantastic.. loads of nice places to eat and drink, public transport and (utility) cycling facilities are fab, as are sports, leisure and cultural facilities in general. Most of the people are friendly, the schools are good and I believe there are quite a few international ones in Leiden and Den Haag.
We really enjoyed our time there but on the downside, it’s very densely populated with little in the way of “real” countryside around the main population centres – there is some nice parkland though and some more interesting terrain to the East and South East of the country and the islands in the North are worth a trip in the spring or summer. Beaches and dunes are quite nice in the summer but are very exposed to the wind.
On the downside, the weather can be even grimmer than here in the winter – be prepared for weeks of grey skies, icy wind and drizzle – the weather seems even more oppressive due to the flat landscape and it can get you down after a while if you’e not careful.
A warning – particularly as an outsider, the level of pointless bureaucracy and downright incompetence in any big organisation you have to deal with (banks, local authorities, tax etc) is almost beyond belief. Another surprise was that even in the bigger, more multicultural cities, the Dutch aren’t always as accepting of minorities as you might expect – Moroccans and Turkish folk in particular get a bad deal and quite a few acquaintances of ours – even well educated, seemingly sensible ones had no qualms about expressing some fairly overt racist views which didn’t really fit in with the tolerant image… it’s actually a far more divided society than you might imagine but I guess that’s true of most countries when you dig under the skin. We’re certainly far from perfect in those respects.
As I say we really enjoyed our time there and had some great experiences but it’s not somewhere we ever intended remaining long term.