I said she could go (using our savings) but ‘I can’t promise I’ll be around when you get back’.

Sorry but you sound like a complete ****

Awww, don’t be sad. If they do decide to go then make the most of the space and the peace. That guy might do some stuff while he’s got your lad but you’ve got a whole lifetime of other firsts to have with him. He’s 4, he won’t remember anyway. And if your girlfriend and your son stil think the world of you then stuff her family! Besides you might get extra bedtime brownie points for letting her go away 😉

Don’t know if anyone else has said this, but kids are usually ushered straight into the lifts to keep them from being anywhere near the casino floors in the hotels, and if you’re struggling for cash before you go then Vegas is a no no. Not like you can nip to the beach for a cheap day out!!

Weddings can bring out the worst in people.

He isn’t just something cute to appear in their photos.

How close are your SIL and OH? How close are you with your SIL and BIL? Sounds a bit off to me that they’ve made this generous offer without discussing it with you and Your OH unless you are not all that close.

Good troll, very convincing. 9/10.

Not a troll I assure you. Besides, no random capitals and swearing.

On the contrary, dear boy. This most cer :wink:tainly is a troll.

I agree that you shouldn’t be sad if there are things other people can give your boy that you can’t afford to. Maybe this might drive you towards a better paid career? Might be the same for me tbh, although I’m not especially materialistic.

To give you a parallel situation, my best mates wife was suffering from post natal depression. He took the family to the Bahamas to help the situation. My wife’s just had a touch of the same. I’ve given her lots of love and reassurance, and taking the family to pick strawberries 🙂 I’m made up that my mate can afford to do that for his family but also happy that I can give my family what they need.

My jobs heading in the right direction, but its a slow burner at the moment, although we are heading in the right direction.

We’ve had a long chat about this last night and again this morning. I’ve made it clear im not particularly happy to be excluded mainly because we are a family. If she really wants to go then im ok with it. I realise I shouldn’t be so possessive too. My OH doesn’t really want to go either, but she doesn’t want to upset her sister by saying no. She also agrees there’s not likely to be much change from £1.5k for them, which be both think is too much.
So I now understand why she hasn’t said no yet, but she’s going to talk to SIL about it.

I asure I was stiring and not trolling. I still think, when you consider the facts presented, you’re a selfish arse/troll.

Well I think you’re a rude **** fourbanger, but was polite enough not to post it.
Whoops!

Vegas youre sister clearly has no taste.. she should pay for you to gfo though. I think it greedy of people to have weddings on the other side of the planet, as most of ur mates wolnt be able to go. It know a couple that were broken up by the debit the wedding cost…how i lold and lold and lold,

😉

Think this would have been an non issue if the SIL had said something along the lines of we’d like you all to come and we’d like to contribute £xx towards your costs of going. This way no-one would taken offence, I wouldn’t have felt excluded and we could have politely declined, rather than my OH feel guilty about saying no.

Agreed, definately could have said heres £xxx towards it if you come, you’ll have to fund the rest as a family! Perhaps just a bit insensitive or she really doesn’t give a **** about you?? Honestly though one of my best mates got married there last year, he wanted me to be best man etc but we said no because we weren’t happy going off on a jolly for a week without our kids.
We the wrightys are “as one”

We the wrightys are “as one”

+1

Similar issue when a mate and his wife were invited to a wedding but explicitly not their son.. they were not happy, and nor would I have been.

You two are both selfish arses / trolls too then! 😉
Just not good form to try and split a family up like that. I wouldn’t dream of going to a family wedding without my OH or son.

Think this would have been an non issue if the SIL had said something along the lines of we’d like you all to come and we’d like to contribute £xx towards your costs of going.

Fair point, but that’s the diplomatic approach. The honest approach for her is to say that she wants her sister at her sons wedding, and you just aren’t as important. That may seem unfair, but it’s probably the truth. If I could have afforded it I’d have paid for my brother to be at my wedding, but not his girlfriend. And I’d have no qualms about that. We are, for example, paying for my MIL to come over and see our new baby, but not our FIL. He’ll be over in a few months when we can afford it. Circumstances dictate.

I wouldn’t dream of going to a family wedding without my OH or son.

Really? What if you could only afford for just you to go, and it was a sibling?

Isn’t this an episode of “Don’t tell the Bride”?

Anyway – like Stoaty said; if there is a plan for what to do with a 4 year old on a 12 hour flight and in non-child friendly Vegas plus there will be other kids then fine. Otherwise offer to take time off and look after the lad = it’s your job and it’ll be good for you and son.

If this is all about excluding you = then you should be a family unit and your SO should see that. We L’s are as one like the Wrighty’s!

Given that wedding’s should be either private affairs = in which case just go off and do it but don’t split the family by inviting some & not others
or
public declamations of a couples love = have it at home and invite as many as you want

Vegas doesn’t seem to be ticking the boxes. Still there’s nothing to cause a bust up like a wedding!

So talk to BIL and ask why SO and son are invited and you’re not. Let them know the hurt & pain their wedding is causing 🙄

I think it greedy of people to have weddings on the other side of the planet, as most of ur mates wolnt be able to go. It know a couple that were broken up by the debit the wedding cost…how i lold and lold and lold

If you’re the kind of mate that laughs at your mates’ debt-inspired divorce, it sounds like you were the kind of mate they were trying to avoid by having the wedding abroad in the first place! 😛

If this is for real, did it not occur to you that they might be a bit financially stretched themselves at the moment – what with paying for a stupid wedding in Vegas?

I dont believe they are paying for the wedding, their son is doing that.

The wedding of a minor relative of my OH in Vegas – my idea of hell!

Take time off work, keep the sprog with you and do some earthy nature based stuff (camping, visit to zoo etc) and leave OH to go to Vagas free of the ball & chain of dragging around a kid through that godforsaken place. Guaranty the whole family will have a better time.

I won’t expect any of my aunts/uncles/cousins to travel for my wedding, and they’d only have to travel halfway across England, let alone continents!

don’t people get married in vegas to get away from the family?

konabunny – Member
I think it greedy of people to have weddings on the other side of the planet, as most of ur mates wolnt be able to go. It know a couple that were broken up by the debit the wedding cost…how i lold and lold and lold
If you’re the kind of mate that laughs at your mates’ debt-inspired divorce, it sounds like you were the kind of mate they were trying to avoid by having the wedding abroad in the first place!

if they hadent wasted money on the wedding they wouldnt have got divorced, i didnt like them much any way they were my girlfreinds freinds really 🙂

jam bo – Member
don’t people get married in vegas to get away from the family?

yet its meant to be about family, ironic really…

yet its meant to be about family

is it?

jam bo – Member
yet its meant to be about family
is it?

Traditionally its about family

This reminds me of that thread about a year ago when somebody posted that his neighbour was cutting down trees in a disputed area of their garden, everybody (yes, I do mean you, TJ) got worked up and then the OP revealed he was making an allegory of the Israel/Palestine situation.

So is this the IMF bailing out Greece and Greece spending the money on a beer and fags?

No its about my sister in law being tactless.

Are you sure its not about Vince Cable? And his stance towards the unions?

🙄

Weddings – ban them !

@bigyinn – have to say that I too felt this had troll written all over but now, gotta agree with a chuck on those above – take the time out and spend it with the little fella. Then, take him with you to meet mum off the plane – little ‘welcome home’ card that he’s made with your help – worth it’s weight in gold, to all of you 🙂

re:

We the wrightys are “as one”
+1

Similar issue when a mate and his wife were invited to a wedding but explicitly not their son.. they were not happy, and nor would I have been.
Brought a wry smile to my face did that (not having a go, not at all). Funny how weddings bring out the best and worst in folk…
20 years ago or so, a great mate and his G/F headed off to StLucia to marry because they ‘did not want the hassle’ of a UK wedding. Fair enough, though it did leave his parents here – his mum cannot fly due to inner problems – causing major upset. We, their mates were a little put out as well but, ho-hum.
10 years later, i’m getting married. There is no space for kids at the sit down meal – it was tight getting my niece and nephew in. We politely inform all friends that kids cannot be there for the day do but, are welcome at night. With only one exception, all parent went ‘wahoo – baby sitter sorted – party time’. The friend above, now with 2 toddlers, insisted they only came as a family unit. I did remind him his parents were invited to the evening do so could enjoy the grandkids for the day, then bring them at night. Still not happy – he and his wife were getting a little arsey, reminding me of our friendship and how upset they were to not be invited as a unit at which point I gently lost my rag – Should have seen his face when I politely reminded him how he’d gone about things on his own wedding……

You think this is bad, wait until someone doesn’t get invited to your kids birthday, oh the dramas. There are some mums in my village who can show this forum what real flouncing is all about.

The wrightys “are one” when it comes to mum and dad going off on hOls for a week without them it’s never gonna happen, but an invite to a wedding for the day where we can have one night on our own is a little different and we’re gonna lap it up!!!