TBH the reasons i decided to go with an all in one venue/ceremony/meal place was A. Its local to where i grew up B. Its significantly cheaper than anything local to where i live and C. I dont want the wedding to consume my life for the next 18 months as ive watched friends do - if it was me i would run off abroad somewhere with my parents - her parents / brother and sister and get married there quickly and be done. But its not my day its jaynes day really at the end of it - i figured it was a small price to pay to see her happy - its not like she has requested something rediculous. At least this way we dont have to run around like blue arsed flies trying to sort out the little things - but i can fully appreciate why folks do though.
might not be personal but so long as the family are there and the band are good (which they are - ive heard them many times before - the benifits of working the bar at weddings in my youth) then ill be happy