So I'm well and truly at the end of my tether with the OH.
We've been struggling for the last 4 years or so and despite many many issues I'd have to site the biggest problem being communication.
She just doesn't like or want to talk. She struggles with talking and does everything in her power to avoid it despite knowing how destructive it is to the relationship. All the problems we have are ongoing long term one which frankly just never get resolved so stack up.
I've tried broaching things in so many ways over the years, we've done the counseling (which I suggested) but she never really got on board with it.
I feel totally powerless in the relationship as just don't have any control over anything at all. If I try to talk about something she just sits in silence and if I try to get her to talk them I'm a bully. Eventually she'll decide she's had enough listening to me and just tells me the conversation is over. I either have to just let her get her way and walk off or I try to convince her to talk which she then I'm a bully again. She won;t actually see anything wrong in what she does though.
House and two young kids but frankly i'm ready for walking. I have been for the lats two years but have continually tried and tried for the sake of the family but I honestly just don;t see things changing.
Does any one know anyone like this or in a relationship with some who just won't communicate??
How the hell do you deal with it or it just a case of accepting things won't change no matter ho much you might want it...