No, not a cyclist. I guess he is lonely and so am I, so I cant critisim him for feeling alone and wanting to change it. But I am used to spending lots of time on my own and the thought of suddenly having no space at all and being overwhelmed by enthusiasm… it scares me I guess. I dont see I could (or want!) to fulfil that kind of hope/expectation. He sounds a nice enough bloke – just way too overwhelming. I am not great at romantic encounters myself, so I am not condemming him – I just think it is not what I want. Its already too big a deal.
The previous person who asked me out raised a lot of similar fears in me as he dated anyone at all – internet, personal columns, blind dates all one after the other in a frantic rush – it seemed so indiscrimante that it felt very impersonal that he was interested in me. It was the same sort of 'I want someone with me all the time' feel to it. Maybe they mistake me for the same type, which I am not.