Sometimes a problem shared is a problem halved and I know many of the STW massive have done similar so here goes...
I'm living in Christchurch, NZ with my parter E. Life is ace. We go biking at weekends and evenings when it's dry and go skiing at the weekend in winter (although the snow has been rubbish this winter so have onky ski'd half the available days so far).
Do we stay?
E's a doctor and needs to contiue her trainig. In the UK that means going in to Core Medical Training next rotation for two years, then begin speciality training. In 7 years she'll be a Consultant of some sort, or so we hope. Or in NZ there isn't so much or a structured training porgramme but it'll be a smimlar 7 year stretch to get qualified. It would be very very difficult to swap between NZ and UK without having to re-start the training programme.
So do we stay? It's a long stretch to consider going back to the UK for 7 years when life is a big playground here. Not that the UK can't a playground per se, but we are really enjoying what NZ offers us.
It's a long long way from family. E has a brother and sister-in-law in ChCh (though they're off to Canada for a while) and her parents are able to visit relatively often. But my family are much less able to travel and I won't see so much of them.
I also left behind a rather ace riding crew in Hexham and the NE *waves* which I haven't come close to replacing. I reckon they could be tempted (back) to NZ
Also the best friends I've made have either gone back to the UK or will be going back.
If it was another year or two we'd stay but the easy option is to come back to the UK and be closer to family and friends than we can be here. Then do more travel/work abroad afterwards or take another gap in training.
So er, yeah.
Would we stay here forever? Unlikely. There's a lot more world out there to explore and live in. I also don't think we'd start a family so far away from our parents and siblings.