Do many folk on here go out of their way by trying out other sports with the main aim of hopefully meeting someone?
The "climbing or dancing" supposedly being good for meeting folk makes me cringe. Same with going on a group bike ride. The thought of someone or a few folk turning up with other ideas other than riding a flippin bike.. doesnt appeal to me.
it doesn't appeal to me either but it doesn't make me cringe. It's not 'going to do XXX in order to pull' behaviour, its simply 'going to do XXX to meet some new people' behaviour. If you aren't meeting new people, you won't find a partner (if that is what you want or not). Think of it as expanding your circle of friends and giving yourself possibilities, while doing something that is fun too.
Its very easy to find yourself happy in your life but with a set and unchanging circle of friends, particularly once in your 30s or beyond. By then you may be settled in a good job, settled in a home, have lots of friends that you've known for ages but perhaps going 'out' a bit less...lots of friends will be married or settled, kids perhaps.. unless you do something that gets you meeting new people then you won't find a partner. So it's just about trying something different to normal to meet some new people and give yourself possibilities.
As I said though, personally I find it tough to do something that I have little interest in 'just' to meet people. which is why I've not been to a dance class. I probably would find the evening enjoyable and social and fun, but personally I'd feel like I was forcing it and wouldn't feel that comfortable, but others are okay doing it.
Perhaps the difficulty in finding a handsome, smart, well-dressed man, is that all those men already have boyfriends.
PMSL 
Start collecting frogs for her?
Maybe we should have a STW singles thread? 
Lady Gresley - Member
Maybe we should have a STW singles thread?
That could be interesting
It's all very well saying go to a pub I'd imagine that a lot of people (me included) aren't brave enough to go to the pub alone, and then start talking to people they've never met, particularly when those people are chosen purely on the basis of appearance.
Sport/hobbies is probably a good one, as you're likely to have the similar interests (assuming you don't take up a hobby just for the meeting people bit!), although in my limited experience all the "good" people tend to be taken!
Maybe I need a brother-in-law to set me up 
Personally I'd leave her to it but as for where you can pick blokes up...
She should hang round places that do lots of stuff that she's interested in.
So if she likes mountain biking, then a mountain biking club would be a great idea.
If she likes reading, library. And so on.
In my experience, the worst places to go are the pub or a night club. You pick up people who like drinking or having casual sex with strangers there. (And while I'm not knocking either pursuit, they may not be attributes to hold dear when assessing personality traits)
oh god no... do you not remember the STW singles swinley ride thread? that was..well...PMSL funny in places but pretty horrid in other places.
As becky says, many people aren't happy to just go to a pub or club on their own and strike up a conversation with a stranger. Taking up a hobby gives the reason to talk/meet and gets past that, and generally there is some sort of shared interest too.
To the OP, I don't think your presumptive or condescending, you are clearly motivated by the best interests of your sister-in-law and I'm sure you know what she might like better than the STW hive mind.
Ignoring the stuff since the op, in many ways it sounds like how my sister was a while back. She decided that sport was a good way to meet more people without any pressure so started doing indoor climbing. Fast forward a few years and she recently married one of those climbers 
Sport's great for extending your social circle whether simply for friendship or more.
I'll also recommend rowing as a very sociable sport with a much better male/female mix than cycling.
IME you never meet someone (mr/s right) while looking.
The best way is through friends and relatives, who'll sort of know what suits the single person. I think 45% of relationships start at work.
although in my limited experience all the "good" people tend to be taken!
A very common misconception.
OP I had the same with two great female mates of mine. Thought they'd never meet a non-lying, wierd, idiot. Infact I posted on here about it! Now both married with kids.
My sis in law likes an older married (poor) man who is old enough to be her Dad and who sweet talks her. Its her life as her youthful years tick away with a fella who will never leave.
My god what a bizarre thing to post.
My god what a bizarre thing to post.
That's got to be a self-prophetic post if I ever saw one.
Is she a lesbian? I can't believe no ones mentioned this... If so.... could you send her round to mine so she can meet my missus. Giggidy
Actually JackTheDog more women are getting higher levels of education than men now.
"Jayne Dallas, a senior studying advertising who was seated across the table, grumbled that the population of male undergraduates was even smaller when you looked at it as a dating pool. “Out of that 40 percent, there are maybe 20 percent that we would consider, and out of those 20, 10 have girlfriends, so all the girls are fighting over that other 10 percent,” she said." - http://www.nytimes.com/2010/02/07/fashion/07campus.html?pagewanted=all
Cue Bender reference http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jtMv6V7ZvmE
Bunnyhop
"IME you never meet someone (mr/s right) while looking."
Absolutely true, but I have never been able to work out how that works or why. IME all the time you are looking you tend to be treated with a big "avoid" sticker, almost the day that you give up you suddenly meet someone. Well it happened for me.
OP - you do come across as a bit patronising - leave her to her life.
Well, after a long period of always being the single one in her group of friends, my girlfriend signed up to a dating site and within 15 minutes of publishing her profile, got a message from a dashing young chap with great prospects. That was 2 years ago and it was the best tenner either of us have ever spent.
OP, you're not being patronising, condescending etc but just be very very careful!
What do you call an Orange 5 owner then and where in the “class” war stakes does he reside??
I know of two close friends who have used eHarmony to find partners. Both took lots of time out being single beforehand and both decided at a similar time to find someone. Whilst dating sites may scare the peanuts out of your hand, they do actually work, eH found partners for both friends and both have been very happy for 18mths and 2.5yrs respectively.
Trouble is you are gonna have to get your S-in-L to apply herself, to this end you may actually find out that she’s rather happy being single.. And to that end it’s a whoop!!
In her own time, in her own time son.
I wish I was single outgoing, popular and fun.
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