Bah - bit pissed, TBH. For me, the funeral IS the bit where you go, well, there's life beyond this. It's not the end of grieving - that fecker'll sneak up on you for years to come - but it's where "life after" starts.
Re the public grief and banner wearing - please don't get me wrong, I can't imagine the depth of sorrow that must felt on losing a child, that's beyond me. But all the ostentatious displays of toys are on a par with the flowers on trees, for my money - it's not healthy, it's almost a denial thing, I think. Look - my cousin killed himself a couple of years ago, out of the blue - he did some car racing, so his parents made a replica helmet out of flowers and put it on his grave. Then they took it home - does it mean they're not grieving as much as a family that would leave it there or even put toy cars on the grave? Course not, just meant they weren't trying to impose their grief on others, or show they were grieving more.
That doesn't really answer the question I asked. I was just wondering at how someone else's grief could impose on yours...
That wasn't what you asked. But since we're on the topic, I think I'd say... At a funeral, I'm in a funeral frame of mind, I don't want bright colours or baby toys in my sight - I'm there to pay homage to the person that's passed, and anything else is a distraction - don't want that, someone's died and the least I can do to honour their memory at that time is keep them in my thoughts. The place my parents were fremated at has subsequently had a petrol station, Premier Inn and grill house built by the entrance, and just the rhought of the insensitivity of it makes my blood boil.