New 11spd shifter needed – Yep
Chainrings are 10spd – Probably fine…. but I’d be tempted to go 1x with a Narrow/Wide ring
Front mech, currently 9spd – if you’re sticking with a triple, probably ok, but as abiove, I’d ditch it
9spd chain will be replaced, but is there any difference? – Yes, different width, needs replacing
New cassette needed, obvs – Yep
New derailier to be fitted cos mine is end of life – Yep, will have to be 11sp, cable pull did change
What about the rear wheel / freehub on a 135OL Qr hub (Hope pro 2)? Same freebhub for Shimano 11s cassettes, different freehub for SRAM 11s cassettes (but even the cheap ones are lighter and wider range than XT)