You know me but this is a different ID…

Anyhoos, I went on my GF insurance for one reason or another to help and the tracker shes had in her car for a few years is shoeing her finishing work early and driving about where sher says she hasnt.

I’ve confronted her and she totally denies it, says shes been at work and doesnt know why its saying that?

Shes so convincing and im so faithful im starting to believe her, am i an idiot?

How accurate are the car black boxes? Am I being a mug?

Yes.

They are accurate.

You’re being taken for a mug.

To add to this I suffer with depression and have anxiety attacks so I want to get this right. I’ll be honest I’m scared shitless.

Psychopaths and narcissists are very convincing people. Learn the warning signs and if necessary run a mile. Google is your friend here.

This advice might be useless, it might be the best advice you’ve ever heard.

Does it show her going to one location many times or just all over the place as you suggest?
Do you have any other reason to think she’s cheating?
Does she leave her phone lieing around unlocked……. ?

Could it be something like AA or GA and she doesn’t want you to know?

jekkyl It only shows the last week of movements,
Only reason is trhere was a very odd incident at Christmas.
Never.
I have no idea what AA or GA means?

How accurate are the car black boxes?

Very.

Am I being a mug?

Yes.

HTH.

Alcoholics/Gamblers Anonymous

The tracker won’t lie BTW, your GF on the other hand….

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See, I just wasn’t buying the idea that you “accidentally” stumbled across the journey logs.

If they were always starting and ending in another part of the country then there’s a slight possibility that the account details have been mixed up, but if they’re otherwise accurate then it’s just showing exactly where the car has been.

AA is alcoholics anonymous, not sure what GA is

edit: ah, gamblers

Learn the warning signs

What are the warning signs?

scotroutes, i was actually trying to help her with something. It was totally accidental.

The tracker will not be sat in the car thinking up new and interesting journeys that it hasn’t taken, so it is not lying. You now need to work out why your partner is.

Good luck.

you confronted her with only a week’s worth of evidence? now she knows you know she’ll change her ways, should have bided your paranoid time for several months. A week can be explained away as an anomaly.
What happened at Christmas? come on now, no drip feed…

**** off jekkyl

OPs already said he’s prone to anxiety etc and whilst I’m not familiar with the condition, I’m sure that more considered responses would be of more help peeps.

come on now, no drip feed

I think it’s going to be one of those threads

[video]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X11bIZz0Rn4[/video]

…but seriously, you may have shown your hand a bit too early. Not really sure where you go from here…you know anyone at her work to ask? As you can either believe her, or just assume the worst and end it (see above video). Also be aware if your anxiety may be colouring your reaction. Bounce the situation of real friend/relative rather than forum dwellers.

….but as mentioned. The box normally don’t lie.

I think it’s going to be one of those threads

Where people excel at being monumentally insensitive bellends? Possibly.

What time is she getting home ? How long has she been “missing” ?

It does sound like you are being too trusting.

Before this did you have any reason to think there was an issue? If not then there may be a genuine explanation here, but only you would know how plausible it is. e.g. is it your birthday soon and she’s off planning a nice surprise?

Anyone else gota set of keys for her car? Have to say i would trust the gps for reasons said before. How much do you trust your g/f? (I know if it were me i would find it hard to disbelieve mine, but some exs i wouldn’t)

Is your GF called Louise?

tracker shes had in her car for a few years is shoeing her

I’m against car violence… so I’m out…

A one-off might be understandable as people do sometimes forget stuff, but if it’s every night then it is super weird. I appreciate that you are prob feeling like you’ve been turned inside out right now but it might be time to face up to what is happening. People do lie, as hard it is to believe sometimes. I would be a) checking where the tracker has said she has been and b) planning a route out of the relationship. As soon as you start making plans you may well start to feel better

The police refuse to release details about how accurate police car trackers are and parole trackers , I have seen the grid references they produced. I always got the police car in the correct place on the expected side of the road at one point exactly Center in a one car wide gate. The suspect was always where he would logically be and never on a roof or in a garden . so I would say the potential accuracy is down to a couple of feet . I proved both the officers in the car and my client were liars.
I’m No help with relationships I’m afraid, but I would guess an open calm conversation would be better than speculating on here .

**** off jekkyl

Well don’t you sound delightful.
I’m trying to think of any good reason why I’d want to look at gf’s car insurance policy that she couldn’t easily do herself. I’m guessing you’ve been harbouring thoughts of paranoia for some time?

Crikey,. GPS can and does glitch but it’s usually meters rather than miles.

If it’s showing unexpected journeys, I wouldn’t doubt it.

We all know that strava, map my ride and similar apps can sometimes misreport. But not by a massive amount in this context. It’s using the same technology, so if the data suggests the car traveled a few miles, it will have done. Give or take half a mile.

Well don’t you sound delightful.

To be fair the op’s world might have just been turned upside down.

Was going to say, he’s probably in a bit of a bad way right now. Give the OP some slack.

it’s time…

if the route and finishing time happened more than once, sounds like you need an explanation – as there is little to no chance of the tracker being incorrect.

Threaten to end the relationship and see what the reaction is, there in lies the answer to how much she cares.

For those that haven’t experienced them, the trackers show the start and end points and the route. It’s not some sort of vague line between two points.

To be fair the op’s world might have just been turned upside down.

Thing is OP, now is the time to be as level headed as possible. Taking things out on people who are trying to help won’t help your cause.
As someone who has been through a very similar situation, the thing that helped me get through is talking openly with friends. I could elaborate, but I became insanely untrusting and jealous over an gf’s whereabouts. It turned me into someone I wasn’t. I just thank god I dodged that bullet.

driving about where she says she hasn’t

Is the issue the driving? or perhaps the stopping? Trying to be delicate here: I would imagine that the movements of somebody who is being unfaithful (which is what I assume you are most concerned about) involve periods when the car is stationary. Does the tracker show that? Where are they?

If I’m honest I fell apart yesterday. The explanation I was given in the end was she’s driving about with her mate after work because she’s not happy and needs someone to talk to. I’d say this is reasonable, but that doesn’t explain why she would driver to a very private place we both know well, up in the countryside, if you get what I mean. This place is 7 miles from my house and even further from her ‘freinds’.

Although it’s very far fetched, it could be the truth. I’m a firm believer in only worrying when you have something definate to worry about. (easy for someone not personally involved to say)

If I’m honest I fell apart yesterday. The explanation I was given in the end was she’s driving about with her mate after work because she’s not happy and needs someone to talk to. I’d say this is reasonable, but that doesn’t explain why she would driver to a very private place we both know well, up in the countryside, if you get what I mean. This place is 7 miles from my house and even further from her ‘freinds’

Sorry OP, I don’t buy that

Initial denial, followed by an unconvincing story (if anyone wanted a chat with a friend it’s be their house, a coffee shop or a pub etc, not a long drive to secluded beauty spot)