Opinions please, honest ones too…
Situation is this: My mum and step dad are in their late 60’s and are moving from the council house they’ve lived in for 30 years to a brand new adapted bungalow, which is much needed as my mum is disabled after having her legs amputated (to the groin) 5 years ago. My stepdad who’s in his early 70’s is crumbling fast as he’s an absolute workhorse looking after her, so it’s time to move to a more appropriate property.
The local housing association have been fab, but there’s some serious expense in moving and all the HA seem to offer is a new shed. . . They require new flooring for all rooms but the kitchen and wet room for starters.
My dilemma is this: Neither myself, or my two brothers can be of much help either financially or physically. One lives in Gibraltar, the other in far north Scotland and due to our own various personal reasons none of us are well off at the moment.
I lost my job in August and started my own business, I’m up to my eyes in debt and if my business don’t take off in new year i’m bust.
My mum and step dad can’t do enough for helping other people out, they’re there in a heart beat and are very popular people at their local social club. They’re well respected people who help out on everything and anything.
Question is folks, it’s not in any of our natures to go begging or borrowing, but if there’s ever been a time when they need help and it’s now. Which for me, is probably the worst time as I’m at a major negative time in my life leaving me unable to financially contribute as I’d like to.
They really need a decent floor as mum’s wheelchair destroys carpet.
I’ve been toying with the idea of trying to raise some funds for them to help out, but don’t like the idea of:
a)admitting none of us are in a position to help ourselves
b)them being ridiculed or accused of being scrubbers
c)negative comments about them in general
Whats your thoughts folks?