i was thinking of visiting a trail centre where i can push it has hard as i want and she can follow swerving the tricky bits. i wouldnt race off and leave her or owt, but i could session stuff while she catches up..?
Has she shown any interest in riding at all? Is she open to the idea? Do you see this as being something that you can share together, or just a plan to stop her from moaning about your hobby? Because from what you’ve said, it sounds more like the latter. If she has no interest or desire to go biking, then there’s nothing you can do about it – she’s likely to resent you trying, especially if you’re not willing to ride with her, or ‘babysit’ her whilst she learns to ride.
Basically, what amedias said.
My Mrs has expressed an interest in having a go at mountain biking after me failing to get her out on the road for a couple of years.
I'm going to have a day off work soon when the weather is nice and take her around the green or blue routes at Cannock. When she's got used to riding a bike again I'll take her round the dog. Fingers crossed she'll take to it, and I'll be able to get out more often, even if it is at a slightly slower pace for a bit
See! Look at prawny, he has the right idea. Missus has expressed an interest, so he’s formulated an excellent plan to nuture that interest, so it can grow and be something that they share. Reasons why his approach is more likely to work:
Expressed an interest: Obviously a good start.
Taking her for a ride on a day off: Weekends are more practical, but going during the week means quieter trails and less stress for novices, even on the easier routes.
Green and blue routes: If someone hasn’t ridden a bike for years, letting them get used to the bike in a chilled out way is generally preferable. Once they feel comfortable on the bike and feel that they’re ready to take on some tougher stuff, then taking them out on an easy red is a good way to go, making it clear that there’s no shame in walking anything they don’t feel comfortable with.
Slower pace: Riding together can make trails less intimidating – the novice can watch how somebody with more experience tackles things, ask for advice, plus aren’t going to feel abandoned or flustered.
Good boy, prawny!
It might be that the OP’s missus would take to it really quickly and become a riding goddess – I took a friend who lives in The Netherlands around FtD who had never been mountain biking. She was only used to Dutch bikes (pedal back to brake) with three gears, so we hired a hardtail and took her around the blue on the Saturday. On the Sunday, she hired an Orange Five and promptly flew around the red. Rock gardens, boardwalks, drops? No problem. Cow. Worth noting that she had always cycled though, and has no fear, so I imagine that probably helped quite a lot.
I, on the other hand, had only minimal cycling experience when I started mtbing, and am naturally a massive coward - it took me years to get to the point where I could ride around a red without walking anything, and even now, I’ll hop off if I think stuff looks too slippy. People who have been biking for years often don't realise how even the tamest of stuff can be terrifying for novices. Saying "But it's just like riding off a kerb!" is pretty useless if they've never ridden off a kerb before.
It’s always best to let new riders go at their own pace, regardless of what that may be.