OK, apologies, but I'm hardly the first to ask for relationship advice on here, and people seem generous with it. Also, this isn't a whine, I'm enjoying a nice dilemma of committing to a beautiful red head or a life of continued messing about in the outdoors.
What I want to know is should a guy actually WANT to get married and commit to settling down and having babies, or is this just what we do because our partners want it? (as my girlfriend puts it "out of duty")
I'm in a good relationship but we have completely different interests. We acknowledge it and it hasn't come between us in a big way yet. However I'm now freaking out as she seems to have the next 5 years planned out to the point where she's discussing the decor of the flat we'll be sharing in Edinburgh and expects to have at least one child in the next 3-4 years.
I tentatively agreed to this stuff early on because I thought it was 'what I needed' i.e. something to give my life some focus etc. but now I've been living and working out of the country for 2 years, I'm suddenly not ready to abandon the freedom to move around and have some more adventures, visiting Nepal at the very least, if not hiking/cycle touring Norway or even trying my hand at volunteering abroad if the construction trade slows down again in Scotland.
Basically I worry about sacrificing the (mostly self indulgent) things I love for things I've never really aspired to (kids and weddings).
I guess I'll get a slightly biased answer on a predominantly outdoorsy website, just like the 30-40s hiking group I was out with yesterday (funny how there's so many singles in these clubs...) but I'm just interested to see if someone can convince me I just need to MTFU (marry the **** up, naturally!).