Uselesshippy – so it would be better to have another spacer in there, which would mean the top of the steerer would be lower than the spacer?
I don’t quite get the whole headset tension thing (as you may have gathered!)the top cap tightens into the steerer, as it does this it pinches everything together to get proper load on the bearings, it doesn’t keep the stem on though, so what you’ve got at the moment is safe, but not exactly properly put together
the top of the steerer is usually a couple of mm lower than the stem/top spacer for exactly this reason, if it’s not then the top cap can’t push down on them