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Do you consider yourself to be a success?
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No normally I'm on the ball, Muddy. Ask Kev; he'll tell you how good my prawns are.
I was probbly on here arguing with some knobend over something silly, and forgot me pizza.
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S'alright, i've burnt soup afore now!
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proper good pizza mateys
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I don't consider myself a failure.
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but do you like pizza?
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Yep, found a mate, mated, had three kids, the human race continues,job done!!!!!
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I have tried to post a reply several times...
But i still can't decide if i'm a success or not..
**goes all philosophical**
What was the question?
EDIT: Found this very interesting
http://www.ted.com/talks/alain_de_botton_a_kinder_gentler_philosophy_of_success.html
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a great many of my personal successes will have been when others may have considered me to be failing..
I spent more than a decade owning nothing more than a hi-fi, some hand drawn sketches, a few sentimental items and the clothes that I stood up in.. but in that time I laughed long and heartily each and every day.. I was frequently filled with a sense of wonderment.. my mind was always stimulated and inspired and the sense of safety and freedom and comfort that my friends instilled in me has been unparalleled at any time before or since..
it all depends how you look at things I guess.. I could say that I'm not doing great right now.. but similarly I'm not doing too bad either..
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Nope, not at all at the moment. Academically I fubar'ed myself in exams earlier this year, work is monotonous but is actually getting a bit better but primarily at this point in time I am failing badly as a woman and it's shite.
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try not to beat yourself up too much emma.. sometimes you have to change gear and just very gently keep plugging away at it for a while until you see the little signs that things are starting to go your way again..
nothing is constant except change..
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Thanks Yunki x
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I consider myself a failure, other people don't seem to have noticed. That's a result in my book. Breathe on.
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Not really no. Sometimes I think I messed everything up. Lot of wasted potential.
I've done alright as far as work and life experiences and all that rubbish goes, quite happy there, but I'm an emotional and social cripple and I feel that's what really counts. Sometimes I feel happy, but normally I don't. I always assumed unhappiness was the natural male state.
Ho hum.
Whoah, I know where you're coming from but I hope that's just the Christmas blues talking. At least you realise what the important things are, eh?
I think being too hard on themselves is the natural state for a lot of men. Myself included.
nothing is constant except change..
Usually quoted to me by somebody making me redundant, but still true. Things not brilliant here now but they have been before and I'm confident they will be again.
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Emma, NO, please don't beat yourself up. If you want to email me and talk please do.
Yes I do consider myself to be a success, I hope that doesn't sound immodest.
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In most senses, yes. Financially/careerwise I've done far better than I'd have ever dreamed. Married for 20 years (I tried hard to wreck this but came to my senses), 2 great kids. Life's genuinely good.
But I have to work astonishingly hard to maintain this, and there are a zillion things I'd rather be doing than what I do to earn a living. In that sense, I'm a total failure.
All of that said, I was thrashing a 4.7litre V8 round Fraser Island yesterday, with my wife and kids alongside me. We were all laughing like loons as the bumps got bigger. Then we saw a hugely photogenic dingo on the way back to the campsite. Pretty much a perfect day. It's not what I'd necessarily call a classic definition of success, but it'll do for me. The job.......it just has to provide enough cash to do the things I want to do.
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I guess yes but there are things I need to improve on which require courage. One thing I needed to do was get out of a job that paid well but was bad for me mentally. Done it. Left the country. That's helped.
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It depends on how you define "success".
My older brother has two houses, a wife and two lovely daughters, earns four times as much as I do and is a really nice bloke to boot. He has his problems though and his life is far from perfect.
I on the other hand am by no means wealthy, don't own the home I live in and have struggled at being the stepfather I aspire to be. I do however have a job I love, the most amazing partner I could ever wish for and I feel generally very content. I'd say that I'm successful too.
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At the moment I'd probably say not really, but that's probably christmas blues talking and not really being where I want to be and doing the things I want to do just at the moment.
But in the bigger scheme of things I think I'm doing alright- line of work I mostly quite like which pays enough to do the things I like, new wife, everyone's healthy. I'm not that bothered by the trappings of success though.
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www.youtube.com/watch?v=BP4LYz90PnU
feel pretty alienated,but I'm healthy,got too many bikes,plenty of time for myself,become a much better person,can build great wheels.
girls smile at me on the street,stopped smoking,can cook.
I'm doing allright,as a person.professionally I've squandered it all.can't sing tho,can't even whistle.
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When my dad hit 80 ( 7 years ago, he died at the end of October) he did a bit of a speech at the family gathering.
Said something about me being a success. Kind of strange as never considered myself as such, but quite nice to hear that from your old man nonetheless. I have never had any kind of aspirations at all, so given that, things have turned out surprisingly quite well
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I'm pretty happy I think, but got a very long time before I'll even be thinking about whether I was successful career wise or not.
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It's not just about career though is it? That just provides the cash for the fun stuff. (I appreciate people who enter the professions and have a passion for what they do may feel differently. To me it's all about earning enough cash to have an enjoyable life).
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Making a difference to the state of the world? No. Probably the same for most people.
Loads of money in the bank? No. Just a bit. More than that in debt, though.
Posh car? No.
Happily married? Yes, very.
Happy cat sleeping on the settee? Yes.
Had a great year? Yes.
Lovely family (in-laws included)? Yes.
I had a pretty shonky start to my work life (I wouldn't call it a career) but with support from from my wife I went from a series of dead end jobs to a moderately successful (almost) career in IT - IT Support then (and now) programming, and I've just had a brilliant recommendation on LinkedIn from the Group Operations Director of the company I am contracting with.
Rich? Financially - no, just comfortably. Emotionally - yes!
Good and loyal friends? Yes.
Off to the continent for New Year? Yes.
My lot is better than I ever dreamed it would be, so, if that's success, yes I am!
Happy Christmas all!
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I got two professional qualifications through this morning, so I feel pretty successful today
One stepping stone closer to something special.
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Not sure ... hhmmm ... need to think about this ...
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I don't have any criteria for success and couldn't give a shit if I measure up to anyone else's, but I'm happy.
So, don't know, don't care. If I and my family have health and time to ride my bike, that's enough for me.Posted 5 months ago # -
WTF
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Tough one for me...I've not lived up to parental expectations that I find hard to get past. I've earned £££ in a professionalcareer and hated it...now looking past that into the unknown (and it's a bit scary).
But I have achievements I am proud of, friendships I value, can have fun on mountains on a bike, and time left to find some contentment professionaly, so it's mostly good.
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Not by my parents' criteria: I'm not married to a nice girl, living in a nice suburb, with two nice kids, a nice car and a 9-5 job. (That's probably a bit harsh.) But I've seen a lot of the world, been lucky enough to have had more than my share of once-in-a-lifetime experiences, and achieved a few personal goals. I inch closer to remaining ambitions but I don't have enough single-minded focus. And I consistently go for unsuitable women, like a moth to flame. That should be changed.
My problem is that I did very well at university, setting the bar too high. I've succeeded in managing expectations down, but I'm the only one of my peer group not to become very rich or very important.
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Corroded
Bumped into a mate i aint seen in ages last night - he works for 6 months then **** off on some adventure some where
Hes treked over deserts and ski toured round bits of the arctic , kayaked all over the world as well
Hes decided its time to settle down now but from the outside looking in - hes a bigger success than anyone else my self included. I know from school despite how ever much money we earn !
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I do. Mostly because I failed my A-levels, dropped out of uni and was told I'd never make anything of my life by an ex. Now I'm married, have a son, a huge house with a big garden and several nice bikes.
Mostly though because 10 years ago I decided I wanted to be a paramedic, it took a lot of hard work and a lot of set backs but I achieved what I set out to do.
(The ex now works in a supermarket in durham and lives with her mum despite being 32.)
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I cannot believe anyone would actually want to consider this during the first 9/10`s of their life on this earth.
Surely the measure of anyones actual worth on this earth is what the people around them actually genuinely thought of them, to consider it yourself means you are obviously far too self obsessed to be of any interest to anyone but yourself.
Merry Christmas and all the best for 2012
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Oooh, middle class angst ....
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I cannot believe anyone would actually want to consider this during the first 9/10`s of their life on this earth.
Surely the measure of anyones actual worth on this earth is what the people around them actually genuinely thought of them, to consider it yourself means you are obviously far too self obsessed to be of any interest to anyone but yourself.
Merry Christmas and all the best for 2012
So, you screwed up bad style, personally I wouldn't worry about the fact that you can't bring yourself round to talking about it just yet. Give it time.
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