I think the writing is on the wall and we both know what is coming is going to be fairly difficult to deal with. We have a wedding to go to this weekend and will no doubt get smashed and the it’ll be all over.
Sounds like you need to say something. Wanting/not wanting more kids is fairly fundamental, and not to put too fine a point on it, she’s wasting her time with you if she wants kids.
I think if the kids were yours together then it might be a bit less clear cut, but if you’re sure about not wanting more kids, and she’s sure about wanting some of her own, there’s no winning.
Obviously keep meeting up for casual sex.
However bad it will feel, it’s over quickly, in the grand scheme of things.
Just think forward 6 months – one version with you’re increasingly desperate to get out, and feeling increasing awful about not having done it yet.
And the other version where you had the conversation 6 months ago, it’s all under the bridge, you’re friendly and talking/you’ve not seen her for ages (delete as appropriate) and you’re both getting on with your lives.
What would the feminists say? “take control of your own body”. Get a vasectomy if you’re that sure about not wanting more kids. Then either keep it a secret and enjoy trying to make babies or (my preference) tell her and let her make the next move.
This really does not seem hard you both appear to be on the same page in terms of agreeing it is not working . So mtfu broach the subject shake hands and move on . Or carry on playing about till you really hate and hurt each other.
A mate has just ditched her fella by text message. Except it wasn’t by text, it was by Facebook status. (It’s still going on now, like watching a car crash In super slow mo, disturbing, yet compelling. Glorious)
As a colleague put it, ‘there’s nothing like being humiliated in front of everyone you know to help get over the upset of your relationship ending’
I was in a long term that I stayed in way past its sell by date fora variety of reasons. Manned up, told her it wasn’t working and it was over. Best thing I did.
Don’t waste her time, more importantly don’t waste yours!
