And someone who, in his introductory email to her, had said he expected her to dress up in nurses uniform and spank him.

Probably quite an efficient method, send that mail to every girl on the dating site and wait for any replies. Saves buying them all dinner etc only to find out they only dress up in Fireman’s uniforms….

No long termers though, eh Sharki? 😉

A very lovely girlfriend of mine who was internet dating years ago got sent a completely umprompted message from some random guy which was in fact a video clip of him *ahem* ‘enjoying himself’. She had sneakily opened it in a meeting expecting it to be something nice – she screamed 😯 😆

At has been known, i’m good for a few months then i either pick holes in them or myself and move on for fear of lost sanity.
Usually i let it run it’s course and once the novelty of a new and fun friendship wears off, we jump ship before it sinks. Also i’m planning on being on a island in the Caribbean for most of this winter and unless they want to come with me…

From female friends experiences its ALOT OF LEGWORK/almost a fulltime job searching, talking to, sifting etc.

Saying that – I do think with the proliferation of ads now on tv for dating and the possibility of turning a womans head – there will be alot of normal girls who will find themselves falling into the serial/casual sex vicious circle where its all too easy to just have one more date..

Said friends also had ALOT of sex out of their experiences with relatively new and changing partners.

If I was on a dating site and a girl said ‘I’ve been here a while/had a few dates but not found the one’ I think I’d walk.

Yes there are genuine (men) and women on them but tbh you’d have to wade or be very lucky to find the genuine non-nutjobs/shaggers/girls who love themselves.

1/4 of all relationships now start online apparently.

The internet dating world does seem to be split between those who found “the one” at their first try, and the lots-of-legwork approach from those who keep meeting nutters!!

In fairness, the nutters have been in the minority for me (but certainly stand out!) and I’ve met lots of decent people who I just didn’t fancy or didn’t click with.

The vast number of profiles out there where women don’t seem to have any interest or passions is always a constant amazement for me. “Likes spending time with family and socialising” seems to be all that 90% of the female online dating population do in their spare time. What, no bikes?? 😯

missnotax – Member
No money for dinner – keep spending it all on bikes

A gentleman always pays on the first date 😆

Plus, you might be surprised – we’re not all keyboard warriors and overweight IT geeks on STW 😀 😀

The vast number of profiles out there where women don’t seem to have any interest or passions is always a constant amazement for me. “Likes spending time with family and socialising”

I’m guessing thats why they are single? Their partner got bored and left. Harsh..

dashed – 😆

As a girlie who has (I think!) an interesting hobby in mtbing and does lots of interesting things, I have literally had about 1 email in amongst the hundreds from someone who was remotely interested in the fact. And he lived in Scotland 😐

nutjobs/shaggers/girls who love themselves.

luckily for me that’s my type of ideal partner..

nutjobs/shaggers/girls who love themselves.

And the downside is ..?
TBH – my life’s experience tells me that nutjobs are simply amazing in bed …
Dangerous out if it, and unwise to go to sleep in it but worth it 😆

Just keep to the shelf-life …

I’m guessing thats why they are single? Their partner got bored and left.

Plenty of guys don’t really have any hobbies to speak of either though.

Worse for me – from a dating/first impressions point of view – is people who lack any curiosity in the world around them. Chatting to a girl recently I found that in spite of having lived in Newcastle for five years whilst at university and having had ample opportunity to find out a little about what was going on around the place. She was amazed to find out that there was a theatre in town when someone took her on a date there, had never noticed the Sage, had never realised there were beaches within a few metro stops. She hadn’t spent her time exploring the local hostelries and watering holes to any great extent which is often the fallback in these circumstances.

I appreciate that none of these are huge things but personally I would find it completely impossible to even get through a date with someone whose whole world exists behind their front door.

My gf had to find contributors for a documentary about internet dating.

Course she did.

If we were paid to research new bikes. I’d have ridden a few..

Just keep to the shelf-life …

13+ years

Dangerous out if it, and unwise to go to sleep in it but worth it

Just keep to the shelf-life .
Funny that, but I’ve just been reading about an ex of mine I met through the personals a few years back.
Turned out she was more than a few psi short of a fully inflated tyre. When I decided that no matter how good the sex (and it was), it just wasn’t worth the mentalness, amongst other things i received around 40 texts/voicemails from her in just over an hour. the included how great I am, what an arse i am, how she’d like to see me again soon and how she hopes i rot in hell.
Anyway, recent newsworthy stories have included fraud and knife carrying offences.
Still, excellent shagging and it’s amazing how you can forget the other stuff.

Anyway, recent newsworthy stories have included fraud and knife carrying offences.
Still, excellent shagging and it’s amazing how you can forget the other stuff.

you just need to be more open minded. nutty people make you look good, and get you free drinks, sympathy etc

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I’m about as good looking as a smack in the mouth with a golf club but just sitting in a local pub I’ve had girls make conversation (initiated by them). Maybe these are the forward-type?

If you like the look of someone dont you folk approach them?! You aren’t ordering food/new shoes. Scared of rejection- ‘sorry I’m with someone’? Is that it or is it time? ‘I’m too busy to go out looking’? Simplifying the first attraction/falling for someone/stories of how you met down to a commodity (and who was online that day).

I’m quite old fashioned and prefer meeting someone in person first/chance encounter/get to know etc, tbh I’d probably use dating sites purely to procure sex. The dating site thing is like a forum (time-eating).

Finding love is easy, there I was standing in town waiting for a mate, I bump into an old **** buddy from school said hello then remembered her best mate who I dated when I was 15. I get in touch with her, we have first date, I moved in after first date and proposed a month or so later. We get married on the 7th of September and I can’t wait.

The second she stepped out of her car on that first meeting I knew I would spend the rest of my life with her.
BOOM simple 😉

The second she stepped out of her car on that first meeting I knew I would spend the rest of my life with her.
BOOM simple

Was she your parole officer?

Was she your parole officer?

Or Psychiatrist…

If you like the look of someone dont you folk approach them?!

How’s your restraining order collection going?

Binners, I’m a God-damn sexual-Tyrannosaurus. 😆

Little arms, hora? I bet the ladies love that 😆

Was there once a STW singlers ride organised? Time for another or was it only blokes who turned up??

Was there once a STW singlers ride organised? Time for another or was it only blokes who turned up??

I’m not entirely sure that even I would be brave enough for that!! 😯

Was there once a STW singlers ride organised? Time for another or was it only blokes who turned up??

Indeed there was, and nope there was definitely some female attendance. I think the focus was on riding Swinley and no relationships were formed.
(I was the photographer 🙂 )

Look! A female

dashed its a line from the film Predator. Shame on you blokes for not spotting it.

dashed its a line from the film Predator. Shame on you blokes for not spotting it.

oh yeah thought I’d heard it before but I presumed it was just an STW hora-ism.

Not tried internet dating but if I’m ever single again I’d give it a go. No idea how to chat up women, altho I have successfully managed it a few times I was verr’ verr’ drunk at the time.

oh yeah thought I’d heard it before but I presumed it was just an STW hora-ism.

All my lines are from Arnie-films or inspired by Brant.

Right come on then, enough online whinging about how crap internet dating is! Let’s have another pop at a STW singles ride around Swinley – can’t do any harm.

First suggestion – Sunday 7th of July 10:30 start at the trailhead.

No wierdos, desperadoes, perverts or sexual tyrannosauruses – just a fun ride around Swinley with a bunch of like minded folk

Met my OH (Flowerpower) through a website, the local bike club – I was a newbie and she was the MTB rep – I asked a question about “what tyres” and she responded “Black ones!” Now we are happily mortgaged with twa dugs.

Tried Fitness singles and Uniform dating before Stirling Bike Club, I was neither fit nor in uniform so they were bound to fail! 😀

@Dashed – You’d best start a new thread.

First suggestion – Sunday 7th of July 10:30 start at the trailhead.

Well, that’s me out then! IOW Sportive on that day…

No wierdos, desperadoes, perverts or sexual tyrannosauruses – just a fun ride around Swinley with a bunch of like minded folk

can i bring my partner we quite like group activities if you know what i mean.

did a bit of dating a while back…met in order of desperation, the dullest nurse in the world, a married woman with issues, and went on a date with a bloke for a favour.

FWB at mins, loads easier LOL

hhmmmm … nice to hear that some of you have found your soul mate online but rather scary too to hear some of the other stories … 🙂

Met my GF on an MTB forum that I started, she had just moved down from Newark to my area in North Wales and she saw a poster advertising the forum in a local shop. She joined the forum and asked for a good shop localy to sort out her gears, I offered to meet up and look at them.

You know the one……..I’ve come to fix your gears, but I dont have a bike, I know let’s !%&£ (in a greman porn star voice) 😆

We have now been together 4 years.

hhmmmm … nice to hear that some of you have found your soul mate online but rather scary too to hear some of the other stories …

Yes. Really should get a profile up on somewhere appropriate like Fitness Singles, but all these stories aren’t encouraging me!

Much as I prefer the idea of “something will happen when you least expect it”, working in IT with cycling and martial arts as spare time activities appears to add “but don’t hold your breath!” 🙂

Indeed there was, and nope there was definitely some female attendance. I think the focus was on riding Swinley and no relationships were formed.

Whilst true that no relationships were formed, one member of the forum at least got a phone number and a subsequent date (though it led nowhere cos of distance involved) ensued! 😉

To be honest, I’ve done more than my fair share of internet dating, and aside from the creepy “I’m interested in you as a bit on the side” types (though most girls I’ve met online have got a number of stories about blokes like this approaching them) I’ve got stories from pretty much every angle. There have been girls I’ve been interested in nothing more than sex with, there have been girls that have used me, there have been girls I’ve really liked that has not been requited and there have been girls that have fallen for me that I’ve not been interested in. There have also been a couple of girls that DEFINITELY ate the girl in their photos seemingly, you’d be surprised just how many girls have put on 5+ stone in about as many months (How is this physically possible? I can eat 5000+ calories a day and even with no exercise, still only gain a couple of pounds in a month!), and then there was the girl that I fell in love with and then she screwed me over!

But just as I was ready to give it all up as a lost cause yet again, I met my current GF, and we’ve been together for coming up to 12 months now. It is very cliched, but the key to finding love is to stop looking for it! I was just about to close my POF profile when my GF messaged me, and I almost didn’t even bother reading her email… Just as well I did, she’s even a keen cyclist now (or will be again when her collarbone heals)!