Separate accounts here too, for no other reason than we both have expensive hobbies and the feeling that you’re taking from someone else’s money to fund yours doesn’t feel right.
Mrs Deviant has horses that cost more than the mortgage each month, my motorbikes and bicycles aren’t that expensive but aren’t cheap either…. amongst our friends joint accounts seem to work for those with children and those who sit in front of the TV every night.
Re. The original question, yes it is weird that in these days of equality a startling number of women expect to be treated to everything as they float through life!
If I invite the other half out on a date then I’ll pay, if she takes me out she’ll pay and if it’s a joint decision like a holiday we’ll split it…it works for us and seems fair.
Some of my friends have partners who earn similar amounts to them but the woman expects to be taken on holiday, never gets a round in, never pays for dinner etc etc….I couldn’t do that, I hate freeloaders….but if it works for them then I suppose that’s all that matters.
However what is funny is getting us all out on a lads night and hearing them moan about it when they’re safely away from the girlfriend…is it an act of defiance in front of their mates or are they so afraid of being single that they’ll turn into a doormat rather than sort out their dysfunctional relationship?
I know I’ll have to fund virtually everything for a while if we breed but i accept that and plans are in place to move somewhere with land so the horse can be at home and not kept on livery which is Mrs Deviant’s main outgoing.