Firstly, can I just get something out of my system? PND... what an absolute bastard.
My partner is a brilliant mum to our nearly-four-month-old, and most days are really great, but I guess every third day or so there'll be a little trigger point - just something going wrong, stressful, whatever - and it'll turn into a really bloody horrible day for her. It's really tough on her (she'll feel like a complete failure as a mother, which is so far from the truth) and on me (I feel i get on the receiving end of a lot of anger over stuff that really doesn't warrant it. I'm not perfect, sure, but it's very hard when small things cause big explosions). Despite all the bad feelings our little baby is the smiliest happiest little boy imaginable and has a really great mum.
What I'm finding hard is that neither of us has been much impressed by the health visitors, and she's worried all the doctor will offer is antidepressants, which I think she might have had bad experiences of in the past. Hence we've never really spoken about it with anyone.
I think I'm doing an okay job with it and I'm helping okay, but it's very, very difficult to cope with at times... having to stay calm and supportive when occasionally it'd just be nice to have a big yell (not at her, just at the world). I have a demanding job on top of all that, so my life is basically the job and this...
Anyone got any magic suggestions, silver bullets, and reassurance that it really does get better?