Just an update, we are going to make a go of it. She has gone to see the stroke association who have referred her to a psychologist...it seems she never mourned the stroke/loss back then, and whilst my wife would not want to look for excuses, it seems this type of behaviour is not unheard of.
It appears this other guy was right words, right time. We are working through it, because no matter how much I try and be the tough guy...I love her, and want to support her and our family through this.
Once again, thank you all so much. It was a 24/7 support service. I am renewing my subs as a kind of thank you, and will happily buy anyone a pint if they are ever in the area. Stu/houns/Daz I will make this happen sooner rather than lat.
I owe you all one.