I've got two children, one I knew nothing about until she was one (now 12) and up until her ex stopped me seeing her a few moths ago I was seeing her one day a month (lives 200 miles away) and even though I'm trying to do everything I can to get access back I'm safe in the knowledge that she's old enough to have 11 years of memories with her, 2000 photographs and she'll always know who I am. She knows I'm her dad and she knows I'll always be there, her arsehole mother and her fella have come across a bit of money and instead of getting the usual monthly text asking if my maintenance will be in on the 1st of the month (which it has for 11 years and including £6500 backdated to her DOB) I got a text to say my daughter doesn't want to see me no more and don't bother paying any maintenance. this is 'work in progress'..
With me in Wigan I have a ten year old to the woman for whom I moved away from the north east for and we split up in 2006 -2009 got back together in 2009 to 2011 and now have a GF of 12 months. I see her two to three times a week and we have a brilliant relationship and we are very close.
We always do stuff in our time together, she seems fairly unaffected by the troubles with the ex and we all do whats best for the child. The point I'm making is as long as you make the effort, keep the ex sweet (sometimes you have to bite your lip a lot) and be consistent then you'll be fine. In a selfish way you'll enjoy the extra free time to yourself.
Then book yourself in for the snip