think it depends a lot on whether the parents expect the child to fit in with their lifestyle or whether they are prepared for disruption as the the new member adjusts to being alive.
and which way is correct..?
do we raise our kids to be familiar with everything going the way that they demand or do we raise them to adapt to those around them..?
the first two years being the most formative and all that..
FWIW, mrs yunki falls into the force the kid to adapt camp, where as I am a card carrying, sandal wearing, yoghurt weaving, mystic peacenik and believe in letting the child develop in the most nurturing environment possible.. sacrificing everything to give them the best start in life.. perhaps this is partly why I stay at home and raise the kids, while mrs yunki goes out to work to provide for the family..
still... there has to come a point where compromises have to made, for the families sake.. a 2 foot long shrieking tyrant with a very egocentric agenda can only be allowed so much power and responsibility before sense has to prevail..
thanks for all the advice though.. I think that perhaps with all the sleep deprivation, and stress, and the guilt at imposing this situation on my older son, I may have perhaps been taking a slightly more clinical approach than felt natural.. compounding the problem to a degree..
my kids get more affection from their father than the majority I'll wager, and our bond is pretty intense.. so I'll not lose any sleep over those misguided judgements.. we're discussing breaking bad habits here, not emotional neglect..