never really thought id have any kind of meaningful relationship never mind have kids. never really thought about it. then when i eventually got together with mrs toppers it seemed right almost immediately. still took us a couple of years to get around to it but no.1 is now 3 1/2 and no.2 is 6 months and i wouldnt be without them. as binners says applies really. i cant imagine life without him or his little sister. if i could stop time for him now that would suit me. there is no cuddle like a cuddle from your own child who just snuggles in and makes you feel so loved. its ace.
it should be pointed out too that some people are not cut out to be parents. but only you can decide if you are capable of making the necessary adjustment. because it is a massive change. it can take some time to get your own time. sometimes 18-20 years.
if im honest, it never really dawned on me that it was happening until he was born. i hadnt worried about what it would be like at all in the lead up. i had been worried that he and my wife would be ok and all that but id not really thought about it beyond that. the midwife was saying how relaxed i was etc. just after he was born the midwives were doing the weighing and all of that stuff and i just wanted to tell them all to bugger off and let me hold him, which seemed to take ages. the midwives were talking to each other about getting him dressed and i just stepped in and started getting him dressed. i thought they were talking to me. they were both really shocked and later said to me that it was really unusual for the dad to do it. which seemed odd.