Firstly, new login as I'm a regular and known to a few around these part, but anonymity would be appreciated for this post if the mods don't mind
I've been going out with a rather wonderful young lady of late who I can hopefully see a long future with and the issue of kids has raised its head - basically she's keen and I haven't a clue. We're both mid to late 30s and she's been honest and said that she hasn't got time to waste if I'm totally against the idea, nor does she want to spend a several years with me if I then turn around and say I don't want kids. It's probably not quite as clear cut as that and it certainly isn't any sort of ultimatum but it's really made me think about what I want.
Basically, I've never been in a place/relationship where I'd have been happy to have kids so the issue has never really raised its head. I always grew up assuming I'd get married and have kids, but things never quite panned out like that - hold off on the violins, I'm actually really content with how my life's worked out And as time has gone along, I've just assumed it's not going to happen. I certainly can't imagine kids right now, but I just don't know if I'll want them in a few years...
So the question is, mainly to you chaps out there, did you always know you'd have kids? Were you always totally certain that was what you want?