Velosam great to read your posts and see you’re enjoying it!
Today’s MTBs are incredibly capable, the team/development riders from each firm will have pushed that bike way beyond what most of us are capable of!
As others have said, raising the front with stem spacers, perhaps a stem with some rise and also riser bars can also help alleviate wrist pain. Change one thing at a time to avoid any confusion and ride each change for a few times before deciding whether or not it was a worth while change.
Less of a nervous death grip on the bars definitely helps but that will come with experience and confidence, once your bar control is relaxed and second nature you can tinker with lever angles if wrist pain persists etc etc.
Could also simply be a case of nothing wrong with your setup but it’s just all new to you!….and you may just need time in the saddle to get comfortable….I went the other way and got a road bike in 2012 and it took me a while to adjust.