IIRC the “ideal” starting position to start tinkering from is around 145 degrees, as it is usually measured and described by bike fitters (or 35 degrees knee flexion as biomechanists would usually describe it 😉 ).
There is more to fitting than just isolated numbers but I suspect what you are observing is a product of 3 things…
One is that the “adjust the saddle height so you knee is nearly fully extended” is misleading because doing this statically feels like the knee is nearly fully extended whereas in reality, when pedaling, the ankle plantar flexes more which in turn leads to greater knee flexion. So the “fitting by an extended knee” actually creates more knee flexion than you think dynamically.
The second issue is that a lot of amateur riders set their saddle much too far forwards. The increased hip angle at the lowest point of the stroke with the pros gives an illusion of a more flexed knee as their femur is more horizontal.
Third is that watching a video of a pedal stroke is itself quite misleading and you process what you see as a pretty flexed knee. If you were to watch it frame by frame then you will see a very short period of time where the knee is actually flexed to its maximum but easily missed by eye watching in real-time.
I guess a fourth thing is that there isn’t one uniform bike fot for everyone and there is a lot of variation between riders, even the pros. Not all pros have “optimal” fits and are pretty resistant to change too!