easygirl, it sounds like we work in broadly similar environments. That sounds like a tragic case you’ve been involved in, but unfortunately it sound pretty familiar too.
I wouldn’t underestimate the power of a bond a child has to an abusive mother, but just like an adult who stays in domestically violent relationships, it doesn’t mean it is the right thing for the individual long term of course. And when the abused party is a child the State has a responsibility to act, as unlike the adult experiencing DV they aren’t legally judged to be competent to make the decision.
I don’t think losing the plot and calling a child a name on a very rare occasion constitutes emotional abuse, especially when it is in the context of an otherwise loving and supportive parenting relationship. So, I’m not marching down to the Local Authority because of what I’ve heard from next door. But, if it is sustained, gets worse, or the otherwise sunny little girl concerned seems to be suffering more and more then I would do. Also, I’m not so naive to think that some really horrible abuse isn’t happening less than a mile from where I’m sitting typing this.
Anyway, as the OP seemed to be suggesting originally, it’s not nice to scream horrible things at young children; just because it is not deemed physical or sexual abuse, or neglect, it doesn’t mean it hasn’t got the potential to do some damage.
There are few things that I get exercised about enough to respond on an internet forum, I guess this is one…..