"Whats a 64BCD? Its a long cage mech"
A 64mm Bolt Circle Diameter for granny rings
Middle ring position is a 104mm Bolt Circle Diameter
Shorten the chain so it goes round the 2 biggest rings + 1 pair of links and the long cage mech will work. It'll be more in tension than a short cage mech, spending no time in the slacker end of its range of tensioning. If it becomes a problem you can buy a short cage mech later
"one of these"
That lower roller would only really help with stopping the chain coming off under back pedalling, or if the chain is going to be jumping up and down ridiculously
A top guide (MRP 1x, Rohloff etc) will guarantee the chain won't come off under normal pedalling, but with an inner and outer guide ring you should be alright for normal riding. Having an inner guide ring should help with back pedalling too
A lot of people use a bash ring and an Ngear jump stop to do a similar job.
"Scared to ditch the granny ring"]
Don't be, unless you plan to ride the bike up really steep (sloppy) hills all day long.